Father questions why his daughter is driving around her trucker husband, who drives 2,000 miles per week: 'I'm petty, I couldn't stay silent'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Jun 4, 2026 11:15 AM EDT

Why is this father-in-law having a conversation about driving with his daughter's husband? 

In most relationships, tasks aren't split 50/50. They're split depending on a variety of other factors. Like, maybe you load the dishwasher for your spouse because the repetitive bending motions hurt their back, and in return, they cook meals, because you burn every meal you make. For some couples, one partner always takes out the trash, and to reciprocate, the other person will sweep the floors. There's always some give and take to it. 

Naturally, this also applies to driving. Say one spouse works, and the other is a stay at home parent. It would make sense for the stay at home spouse to just drive most of the time, because they've already got the seats and mirrors adjusted to their own specifications. They're already driving 5 days per week, so if they don't mind driving, or even enjoy it, who cares which person drives?

Well, this father-in-law cares a lot, actually. And his reasoning has got his daughter and her husband questioning who should actually be doing the driving. 

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    Woman sits behind the wheel of a car, waiting for her husband to get in, in a photo depiction by a model.
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    Woman sits behind the wheel of a car, waiting for her husband to get in, in a photo depiction by a model.

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    Husband sits in passenger seat, father-in-law disapproves

    I drive a tanker for my job out of town and make the 5 hour drive (one way) to work and back home in my personal car. When I'm home 3 days, my wife drives everywhere, I mean I get in the passenger seat of her car and off we go, date night
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    don't care she drives, shopping don't care she drives, visiting family don't care she drives.
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    Truck driver stares into the distance as he takes a break from his long days of driving, as represented by a model.
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    Truck driver stares into the distance as he takes a break from his long days of driving, as represented by a model.

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    "I just don't see why it matters"

    When we first started dating years ago she was a bit uncomfortable with it as she was used to the I guess status quo that men drove as was I but I'm not trying to break a glass ceiling or anything I just don't see why it matters and d it I
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    It literally doesn't matter! Thank goodness this guy and his wife can both see that. There's no reason why either of them can't drive. Clearly, the husband just doesn't want to because he drives all week long. It's the same as a chef who doesn't want to cook a gourmet meal when they return from work: you just get tired of doing the same things over and over again. If your partner cares about your needs, they'll see that weariness in your eyes and take over that task for you with no questions asked. 

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    drive 2k miles a week or so and don't wanna do it when I'm home. My father in law makes such great comments like do I hold her purse, and the zinger he thinks is original so says it more often than others "are
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    Truck driver examines his rig before beginning a long day on the roads, in a photo depiction from a model.
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    Truck driver examines his rig before beginning a long day on the roads, in a photo depiction from a model.

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    your b in her purse" every so often when we see them and I inevitably get out or into the passenger seat followed by guffaws and just kidding. My wife nor myself give him any response it's just so silly and mildly infuriating.
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    These levels of insecurity are unheard of in modern day

    LotsOfNoise Ask him why he's so insecure in himself that he has to care so much what another man does all the time.
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    What's next, does he think women should only stay home and churn butter while wearing handmade skirts? This is the late 2020s, and Pops needs to get with the times. 

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    Woman stands outside of her car, waiting for her husband to join her, in a representation from a model.
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    Woman stands outside of her car, waiting for her husband to join her, in a representation from a model.

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    This person admired the husband's ability not to laugh loudly in his FIL's face

    Humbled_Snail I'm petty, I couldn't stay silent. I seriously commend your restraint.
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    With some family members, you just have to accept that they're "like that" and will probably never change. But that key word is "probably." Maybe they'll change with enough pressure, or in this case, with enough playful mockery. 

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    Very odd for today's day and age

    Civil-Koala-8899 This is so weird, I've never seen driving as a gendered thing at all. My husband sometimes drives me around and
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    Even when our parents and grandparents were young, I don't think there was a divide over this. Very strange. 

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    sometimes I drive him, it just depends who feels more like driving that day!
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    Here's another good point

    QueenInYellowLace Your wife needs to tell him to stop. My husband drives long distances for work, so I almost always drive us around- same as you guys. If
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    The wife probably hasn't addressed this because she's used to her dad's antics. But if it's bothering her husband, it should be on her mind. She could take a subtle approach or an overt one. Maybe that's something she and the husband could discuss further before actually deciding on a path to take. 

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    my parents were to him about it, I'd be furious.
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